Years ago Pastor decided that the deacons were not to be in one accord with their wives (i.e. they weren’t supposed tell their wives what was being discussed in the deacons meetings). This was not because their wives were gossipy women; obviously their husbands would not be deacons if they did not have their houses in order. This decision was made because the deacon’s wives often disagreed with the unethical practices employed by the leadership, and as Godly women, they would voice their concerns to their husbands and the pastors.
God has something to say about this division of marriage, which is subtle but deadly. Mark 10:7-9 states, “‘therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. ’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Our pastors sow discord among the marriages in our church by calling women evil and insinuating that they must be kept in the dark in regards to what their husbands are involved in.
(For other Scripture references refuting this tactic see Ephesians 5:31 and Genesis 2:24)