A very effective tactic in Calvary Temple is “fear based marriage“. I say fear based because parents are convinced that allowing children to marry someone outside of Calvary Temple is dangerous. According to our leadership, children should only marry those that have been in the congregation for an extended period of time so that leadership can know them, judge them and approve them. If they approve, then the children can marry. However, we can all think of exceptions to this rule, the times when someone has been at Calvary Temple just a short time and marries a member in record time. These marriages within families have the effect of keeping families locked together, making it so much harder for people to leave and attend another church.
If a young adult (or adult for that matter) meets another Christian at their work place or neighborhood and wishes to pursue a relationship, it is completely discouraged. This keeps everyone from hearing from God personally and from ever leaving Calvary Temple. However, Scripture instructs us concerning marriage: “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14). God does not say we must only marry within our local fellowship, He says we are to marry a believer.