Out With the Old and In With the New

Pastor likes divorce. He encourages divorce. The Bible text that he cites to push divorce among us is Isaiah 50:1, “Thus says the Lord: ‘Where is your mother’s certificate of divorce, with which I sent her away? Or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you Behold, for your iniquities you were sold, and for your transgressions your mother was sent away.‘” Fact: at pastor’s directive there are currently over two dozen men and women who have divorced and/or are in the process of separating/divorcing from their spouses. Question: either there is a great deal of adultery in our church, and it is not as holy and God-fearing as we promote, or pastor is unscripterally using divorce to control people and bind them to himself. Removing all obstacles (people) that stand in his way.

But God says, “But you say, “Why does he not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth. “For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless” (Malachi 2:14-16) “And Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce one’s wife for any cause?” He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you:whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery” (Matthew 19:3-9).

Catch Me If You Can

Frequently marriages here at Calvary are arranged (coerced, set-up, commanded) by the leadership. Contrary to what we are told to believe (that God spoke to the individuals), some of us know that the real reason is to keep someone from leaving Calvary. Not everyone is considered valuable to keep, pastor kicks out many undesirables. Here is the list of assets (people) considered valuable enough to push into quick, arranged marriages:

  • Those that are good looking
  • Those with money or those who stand to inherit money from unsaved relatives
  • They are “fresh fish” lured into a stagnant pond
  • They were raised at Calvary and are very popular/influential
  • Their parents are in leadership at Calvary

These are some of the reasons why someone is kept at Calvary at all costs, and only the most “rebellious” will buck the system.

But God says, “But understand this, that in the last days there will come times of difficulty. For people will be lovers of self, lovers of money, proud, arrogant, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, heartless, unappeasable, slanderous, without self- control, brutal, not loving good, treacherous, reckless, swollen with conceit, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having the appearance of godliness, but denying its power. Avoid such people. For among them are those who creep into households and capture weak women, burdened with sins and led astray by various passions, always learning and never able to arrive at a knowledge of the truth. Just as Jannes and Jambres opposed Moses, so these men also oppose the truth, men corrupted in mind and disqualified regarding the faith. But they will not get very far, for their folly will be plain to all, as was that of those two men” (1 Timothy 3:1-9). “Indeed, all who desire to live a godly life in Christ Jesus will be persecuted, while evil people and impostors will go on from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived. But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, equipped for every good work” (2 Timothy 3:12-17).

Fear Based Marriage

A very effective tactic in Calvary Temple is “fear based marriage“.  I say fear based because parents are convinced that allowing children to marry someone outside of Calvary Temple is dangerous.  According to our leadership, children should only marry those that have been in the congregation for an extended period of time so that leadership can know them, judge  them and approve them.  If they approve, then the children can marry.  However, we can all think of exceptions to this rule, the times when someone has been at Calvary Temple just a short time and marries a member in record time.  These marriages within families have the effect of keeping families locked together, making it so much harder for people to leave and attend another church.

If a young adult (or adult for that matter) meets another Christian at their work place or neighborhood and wishes to pursue a relationship, it is completely discouraged.  This keeps everyone from hearing from God personally and from ever leaving Calvary Temple. However, Scripture instructs us concerning marriage:  “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.  For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness?  Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14).  God does not say we must only marry within our local fellowship, He says we are to marry a believer.