The tactic of saying one has committed “spiritual adultery” is often used on real believers who love God, but may have rebuked our pastors, saying that they are behaving unscripturally. In order to silence the Godly individual’s reproof, the leadership marks them, shuns them, and tells the congregation that the believer has committed spiritual adultery; everyone is, of course, shocked at the revelations. So we now have to go into passive mode again because it is just too confusing to understand. Our pastor knows more than we do, so we won’t ask questions. It is easier to blindly trust what the pastor says about the individual, but is that the right thing to do?
When the accusation is made that one has committed “spiritual adultery”, follow the example of the Jews in Acts 17:11 who, “…searched the Scriptures daily whether those things were so.” Do not just take the accusation lying down, not caring to search out the matter. Did the person even commit spiritual adultery? In Ezekiel 20:30-33, God reproved the leaders of His people for spiritual adultery; which they were committing through the practice of idolatry, going after the gods of other nations, and making their sons pass through the fire. So you see, spiritual adultery is very obvious by our actions. If someone is labeled a “spiritual adulterer” then find out why they were labeled in such a way; do not just believe what the leadership says before taking it back to Scripture and making sure that it lines up.
(For other Scripture references refuting this tactic see Isaiah 5:23 and Proverbs 30:5)